I know, I
know I contradict myself a lot.
A few
months back I described this country as a bad boyfriend and I’m sorry
Indonesia, you aren’t bad. The truth is Indonesia is easily the love of my
life.
I fell in
love with this place somewhere around the age of 6 or 7. Yes, young love.
Indonesian was the language offered at my primary school and for whatever
reason, it fascinated me. My memories from my early days of learning Indonesian
include repeatedly watching a documentary on Waterbomb Park in Bali and
dreaming about going there (which I still haven’t got around to doing) and
watching another video about some teenagers and laughing that they were
listening to a band named ‘Gigi’ because I thought ‘teeth’ was a ridiculous
band name (who knew that 15 years later I would watch that very band live).
As a six
year old, my parents took me to the Indonesian embassy in Canberra. I mean it’s
a building with some random information about Indonesia, but to me it was
everything (look how happy I look). That’s what being in love with a country
was like back then, I was always enthusiastic about my Indonesian studies,
spending hours looking up things in the dictionary and probably driving my
teachers crazy by asking them to translate random words.
it makes sense that this incredibly dorky kid would grow up to be the incredibly dorky adult I am today |
At my
primary school graduation, I won an award for the most enthusiastic Indonesian
student in my school. I don’t keep in touch with anyone from my primary school,
but I’m pretty sure I’m still the most enthusiastic Indonesian student to this
day. J
I continued
my Indonesian studies in high school. My favourite memories from high school
were my teacher loosely translating “dude where’s my car” to “ay, dimana
mobil?” and me saying that repeatedly, my crazy teacher who wrote weird songs
in Indonesian, going by the name Kartini in class as we had to use Indonesian
names (one of my classmates insisted on being called ‘Belalang’ for some
reason) and Indonesian still being my favourite subject. At the end of my last
2 years of school, I also won awards for the top student in my class.
the Indonesian room was also the most beautiful classroom in my school |
From that
point, it made sense to continue studying Indonesian in university with the
plan to one day become an Indonesian teacher in Australia.
I took a
one year break from studying, so when I started university and I walked into a
classroom that was fully in Indonesian, I was lost. I remember my first oral
exam when my teacher asked what I thought of racism in Australia, all I could
manage to say is “I’m not racist”. I was the worst student in my class… easily
(and I’m not saying that, I seriously often had no idea what was going on in
class).
But it
wasn’t from a lack of effort. I spent my free time writing random stories in
Indonesian and listening to Indonesian
music. I googled key words such as “lagu cinta” (love song) and downloaded
random songs. That’s how I started listening to Rossa, Peterpan and Sheila on
7. And all the songs I listened to had the word “cinta” in the title due to my stupid
search criteria.
Over time,
my knowledge of random Indonesian music increased rapidly but my speaking skills
were always questionable as I was always too shy to speak. So, I went through
university as the worst student in my class but probably the only one who drove
to class blaring Kebyar Kebyar from her car stereo. Oh well, you win some, you
lose some.
Other
memories of university were making a mockumentary titled “Penyerahan Tugas
Ekstrim” (Extreme Submissioning), getting a homework task that was a list of
English swear words with the instructions to “find an Indonesian and come up
with the Indonesian equivalents” and sometimes getting drunk on the weekend and
speaking Indonesian because apparently I was capable of it (if only we were
allowed to drink in class).
don't judge me |
And
thennnnn, finally, after a 15 year long distance obsession with Indonesia…. I
went to Indonesia. In the beginning of 2011, I and 20 other students from my
university undertook an intensive summer semester in UGM Yogyakarta. I feel
like I should go into this time as a student in Indonesia properly some other
time but the main point is: I fell even more in love with Indonesia from the
moment I arrived there. And I’ve never looked back.
After getting
back from that first 7 week trip to Indonesia, I knew I was trapped. Suddenly
there was a voice in my head that started screaming at me “you’re supposed to
be in Indonesia. Why are you here? GO BACK TO INDONESIA”. It felt physically
painful to be away from Indonesia after that first taste and I couldn’t handle
it. As soon as I could (the next summer) I headed back to Indonesia for a five
week holiday travelling around Java, Bali and Lombok.
The day I
got back from that trip it started again. The same emptiness. The same
desperation to go back. I can’t even explain why it felt like that. It was just
a physical pull that I could do little to control. The day after I got back, I
found myself bawling my eyes out to my mum saying “I don’t want to go back to
university, I want to live in Indonesia” she told me to stop crying and go live
in Indonesia.
So I quit
my post-graduate course on the first day and started researching how to move to
Indonesia. I worked part time and was incredibly strict on myself reminding
myself constantly “do you want to buy shoes or do you want to move to
Indonesia?”. Indonesia always won and I lived very simply as I saved to do my
TEFL course.
I did
splash out on a few things at that time. My (incredibly regrettable) Garuda
Pancasila tattoo as well as a tattoo of the words “merah darahku, putih
tulangku”. Yes, I was willing to spend (A LOT) of money on those but wasn’t
willing to buy myself shoes, excellent priorities you had, 2012 Sammi.
I actually still like this |
And we know
the story since then. Years of adventures full of detours, feeling somewhat uncomfortable at
all times and having enough go wrong that I have started to expect even the
most unlikely complications… yet my love for Indonesia is constant.
So yes,
this is the best love story I know. Have you ever heard of a 22 year long love
story (that started with a 15 year long distance relationship) and to this day is
quite likely completely one-sided?
I doubt it.
So, to the
love of my life on your 73rd birthday, I thank you from the bottom
of my heart for helping me grow into the person I am today. Thank you for being a big part of almost my entire life. Thank you for being my home, my
inspiration and my lifelong obsession.
I hope you get better and better. I hope you keep making a little more sense to me each year but I hope you keep being you- the crazy, confusing, unpredictable and complicated place I call home.
I love you, Indonesia.
I love you, Indonesia.